Relating A Story In The Past...
Somebody reminded me about an incident that happened during a church retreat sometime ago. And I had promised him that I will write it out. So here goes (Now... don't expect a tragedy of love and hate, LOOK AT THE TITLE OF THIS BLOG! :):
I remember about 5 years ago *GOSH! Thanks Jason Lim, for the cue on the year* Our church was doing a musical in KL during the church retreat (so you can guess how much "retreat" we got out of the retreat). I was one of the members of the backstage support team, and there were about 8 of us. We had very little time and the minute we reach KL, we went into rehearsal mode. We were the advance party, hence we do the rehearsal while the main group make their way to join us.
By the time the main group came, we pretty much wrapped up the first rehearsal, and it was time for dinner. Due to miscommunication with the hotel, there weren't enough seats available for all of us. We, being the backup support, need to pack up the stage props and stuffs before we head down for dinner. There 8 of us girls (including a main actress) were the last to reach the dining hall.
The hall was filled with people and the 8 of us had to go around to tables looking for seats. I was rather exasperated to find that one of the tables were taken up by all guys from the musical and one girl.
Ok, they may seemed like a normal dining group. What was really infuriating was that the guys were oblivious to us girls going to table after table looking for seats, even though they stop occasionally from their food to look at how are we doing with our search. Some of us even went near their table a few times, I mean, HELLO... Yes, I was expecting them to be gentleman enough to give up their seats. But NO... it doesn't matter to these Christian men that their sisters in Christ are wandering around, tired and hungry after the rehearsal.
It so happen that the only girl at that table was a hot newcomer who has got 2 of guys falling heads over heels over her, with the rest behaving like they are brothers in some secret society. Their attention were so into her, apart from their food that is.
I was really mad. One of the girls couldn't take the stress from the crowd and the noise and went back to her room after a while. While the rest of us felt bad that some of the children had to give up their seat and sit on their parents lap so that we could have a seat at their table.
After the incident, the issue was raised to one of the guys who were at the table during lunchtime at a nearby hawker centre, after church. I can still remember his answer when asked why couldn't they or he, as a gentleman gesture, let us have the seat.
"But you girls have to tell us that you want our seats mah. You don't tell us, how do you expect us to know what you are thinking about?" Well, that is certainly spoken out of context. Does he truly expect us to walk up to any one of them that day and say "Hey, get up, I need to have a seat to have my dinner."?
Whereas some have owned up to me that they truly did not notice that we were looking for seats, the rest have little to respond when I mentioned this to them. Overall, they thought they did nothing wrong. The more matured men in the church, after hearing my complaints (I make sure my voice is heard), shook their head and said "They really did that? That's bad."
Well, it certainly left a very deep "impression" of them in my mind. From that day onwards, I have set myself a mission to "teach" this people how to treat girls and ladies, and even others, in a more humane way. I literally have to tell them off (I ne'er scold them hor... I so nice... I don't scold one, hahaha!) and help them to see what is the better way of handling delicate issues with girls. Some of them, I discovered, have not even the basic skills to be civilised and considerate to normal everyday family or colleagues, let alone, girls. Haiz...
Well, I am proud to say that part of my interferance actually resulted in the union of one of the guys and gal in that church. And I didn't actually thought I was the one until they mentioned my name on their wedding (look under "Most Wonderful Time of The Year).
Sorry I digress...
So, I hope this little story gives you all a peek at why I start a blog like this. As for the conclusion, I will leave it to you people to derive. If you will,leave me your comment :)
I will published them out, be it fame or flames. :)
I remember about 5 years ago *GOSH! Thanks Jason Lim, for the cue on the year* Our church was doing a musical in KL during the church retreat (so you can guess how much "retreat" we got out of the retreat). I was one of the members of the backstage support team, and there were about 8 of us. We had very little time and the minute we reach KL, we went into rehearsal mode. We were the advance party, hence we do the rehearsal while the main group make their way to join us.
By the time the main group came, we pretty much wrapped up the first rehearsal, and it was time for dinner. Due to miscommunication with the hotel, there weren't enough seats available for all of us. We, being the backup support, need to pack up the stage props and stuffs before we head down for dinner. There 8 of us girls (including a main actress) were the last to reach the dining hall.
The hall was filled with people and the 8 of us had to go around to tables looking for seats. I was rather exasperated to find that one of the tables were taken up by all guys from the musical and one girl.
Ok, they may seemed like a normal dining group. What was really infuriating was that the guys were oblivious to us girls going to table after table looking for seats, even though they stop occasionally from their food to look at how are we doing with our search. Some of us even went near their table a few times, I mean, HELLO... Yes, I was expecting them to be gentleman enough to give up their seats. But NO... it doesn't matter to these Christian men that their sisters in Christ are wandering around, tired and hungry after the rehearsal.
It so happen that the only girl at that table was a hot newcomer who has got 2 of guys falling heads over heels over her, with the rest behaving like they are brothers in some secret society. Their attention were so into her, apart from their food that is.
I was really mad. One of the girls couldn't take the stress from the crowd and the noise and went back to her room after a while. While the rest of us felt bad that some of the children had to give up their seat and sit on their parents lap so that we could have a seat at their table.
After the incident, the issue was raised to one of the guys who were at the table during lunchtime at a nearby hawker centre, after church. I can still remember his answer when asked why couldn't they or he, as a gentleman gesture, let us have the seat.
"But you girls have to tell us that you want our seats mah. You don't tell us, how do you expect us to know what you are thinking about?" Well, that is certainly spoken out of context. Does he truly expect us to walk up to any one of them that day and say "Hey, get up, I need to have a seat to have my dinner."?
Whereas some have owned up to me that they truly did not notice that we were looking for seats, the rest have little to respond when I mentioned this to them. Overall, they thought they did nothing wrong. The more matured men in the church, after hearing my complaints (I make sure my voice is heard), shook their head and said "They really did that? That's bad."
Well, it certainly left a very deep "impression" of them in my mind. From that day onwards, I have set myself a mission to "teach" this people how to treat girls and ladies, and even others, in a more humane way. I literally have to tell them off (I ne'er scold them hor... I so nice... I don't scold one, hahaha!) and help them to see what is the better way of handling delicate issues with girls. Some of them, I discovered, have not even the basic skills to be civilised and considerate to normal everyday family or colleagues, let alone, girls. Haiz...
Well, I am proud to say that part of my interferance actually resulted in the union of one of the guys and gal in that church. And I didn't actually thought I was the one until they mentioned my name on their wedding (look under "Most Wonderful Time of The Year).
Sorry I digress...
So, I hope this little story gives you all a peek at why I start a blog like this. As for the conclusion, I will leave it to you people to derive. If you will,leave me your comment :)
I will published them out, be it fame or flames. :)
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